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I have been reading thaivisa forums for a while now and i have noticed there are a lot of members with knowledge about Thai/Isaan customs. I seek some opinions from the ones with more life experience in Thailand than me.
I’m in my 20′s and have been traveling and partying around the world for the last 2 years. It has always been my dream to explore the world and do whatever i want, no serious relationship and definately not marry before i’m 30+.
I came to Thailand about a year ago and only wanted to stay 3 months before going to Fiji. in the 3rd month i met a beautiful girl so i decided to stay a little bit longer, things got more serious and now we have a relationship. I’m crazy about her and vice versa.
All nice and well but the thing is i’m starting to miss my travel adventures, flings with other ladies, the bachelor life….
I’m afraid i’ll get into a midlife crisis before my 30th birthday if i keep doing this. This was NOT how i planned it to be, i planned to travel the world (which i did for almost 2 years), do whatever i want to do and party. At this point i really don’t know what to do.
I can’t leave her because i love her and i don’t want to break her heart, but i can’t settle yet because i’m not ready for it and i’m afraid i will cheat on her eventually. Also i’m afraid that if i decide to pick up my adventures again and after 5 years i realise all i ever needed was that girl in Thailand…
The family.
Her family is poor and live in the Isaan, most of them are rice farmers or work on the foodmarket.
After 4 months dating we decided to visit her family.
I have to say they are very kind people but rude compared to my western morals and values. Maybe it’s not rudeness but just a difference in culture and understandings.
Almost immediately when we arrived her mother asked us what we wanted to eat. While she was preparing the food a dozen women from the baan entered the house to welcome us. They all asked me for a beer, but i didn’t know them so ignored the question. SHouldn’t that be the way around? Shouldn’t they offer me a beer because i’m the guest? A few minutes later i see the women walking away with a couple of beers and saying thank you to me. Seems like my girlfriends mom bought some beers for them. Now i had to pay her mom back….
My girlfriend explained that she had been away for a very long time so people expect her to take something back to the baan. But why ask me for stuff? I’m the guest!
The same evening we had dinner with the family and some other people from the baan. Evrybody had to bring some food so we went to the market but it was closed already, i decided to buy 2 bottles of whisky because i know the men like it. We drank 1 bottle that evening and i gave the other bottle to someone from the family, but i didn’t get any thanks or appreciation back.
Next day i was asked if i would to go sightseeing with my gf and her family. Sure, so went on the road with a borrowed car and after 30 minutes we stopped to fill up the tank. So i was sitting in the car and heared them say farang pay 1000 baht. 10 people looking at me, yeah 1000 baht pay gas. I looked at my girlfriend with frowned eyebrows but she didn’t say anything. To save her face i paid 1000 baht to the gasman, that same moment i had a feeling like what the hel_l……. Have i been tricked by my gf? Do they only like me because i have money? I felt very angry and sad the whole day and didn’t say a word in the car. I confronted my gf with it, why she didn’t say anything and why they were so rude to ask me 1000 baht. She was a bit ashamed and told me in Isaan many people don’t have manners, everything is taken for granted. It really spoiled my day.
Next day we decided to leave, man how relieved i was to leave that place. The people are very kind but i felt they were taking advantage of me. Maybe they were just testing me out, i don’t know.
I have been thinking about it for a long time but i can’t make any conclusion without any knowledge about isaan customs etc.
So what do you guys think about it?
My gf can take care perfectly fine for herself, she has an officejob and sends money to her mom every now and then. She never asks me for anything and surely never asks me for money. I don’t understand why she didn’t confront her family about their behaviour while she clearly knew i was agitated about it. It was like i was having a completely different girlfriend back there.
Are you curious about the responses. Then read the full ThaiVisa forum thread titled Party Or Settle? And questions about Isaan family.
Elsewhere, Thailand Guru wrote a long piece titled Thai Freelancer Prostitutes and Girlfriends. If you check it out, you’ll quickly see the tie-in between prosititutes, girlfriends, and Issan.
You might enjoy reading the simple story-lines accompanying the 20 songs that are reviewed in this page of Morlam Show Notes.
Steenie Harvey gives her vision of Isaan in Up-Country Adventures In Isaan. Her references to the Isaan “girls” and “girlfriends” that Western men experience do not seem to me to be exactly…favourable. But of course, it is a Western woman’s view.
This piece titled Thai Wives and Western Men isn’t a very long read…which is certainly fortunate, if you’re not really in the mood for its negative trend.
Much more to my liking is the positive spin of the Website Retire-on-550-month.com. However, please do not accept this as an endorsement — I merely want to point out that there are many truly wonderful women in Isaan, and I enjoyed seeing that being said within the pages of this site.
I enjoyed this short interpretation of Isaan Girls In North Eastern Thailand given by a site called…Lao Babes.
Here’s another view of Isaan women given in a blog post titled Bad and good things happen to Isaan (Thailand) women.
Here’s a guys running list of reactionary comments relating to the Thai girl he took back with him to Europe: Delightful Farangland – Welcome to Your SE-Asian Girlfriend.
I never got any of that when I brought my Jack here to Canada!
4 Isaan
Davef2912 | July 31, 2009
I visited my girlfriend`s family in their village near Pra Kat in the very North East of Thailand. About one hour from Nonkhai by bus and then 30 minutes by Tuk-Tuk. I experienced real “Isaan” and her uncle took me to the Chicken-fights.
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